Normalcy After a NJ Custody Case

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Normalcy After a NJ Custody Case

Divorce and custody cases create a lot of turmoil. The end result is a new schedule you and your child have to live by, which probably includes parenting time with the other parent. Your child is going to be on the move a lot more and your quiet little home life may not be so quiet anymore. Adjusting to a parenting schedule is difficult but it is possible to create a new normalcy in your home that will help your child feel calm and adjusted. Here are a few tips to help you do this.

  • Accept that the new normal is not the same as the old normal and you can never go back. Many big changes like this are hard in the beginning, but as you live with the new plan, it will become comfortable.
  • Model the right behavior. If you make it clear you are struggling to adjust and hate the new schedule, your child is going to follow suit. If instead you can show that you are cheerfully adjusting, you will show your child the best way to adapt.
  • Create a schedule and stick to it. The best way to get used to things is to have a new routine that you follow regularly. It will soon feel normal if you stay with it.
  • Build in downtime. Things get crazy when you’re rushing from school to activities to dropping your kid off with your ex. The new schedule is incorporating a lot of new drop offs and pick-ups and your child is more scheduled than ever. You need to make sure there is plenty of quiet time at home to counter the new craziness.
  • Give your child access to the schedule. Put it up on a wall calendar or put it into your child’s phone. Letting him or her see exactly how it plays out goes a long way towards making it acceptable and routine.
  • Talk about the changes. Give your child the opportunity to talk about how he or she feels and what impact the parenting plan has.

DeTorres & DeGeorge handles child custody cases in Hunterdon, Somerset and Warren counties in New Jersey and surrounding areas. Call us now to schedule your consultation.

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About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Carolyn B. Hand
Carolyn Hand is a passionate and experienced litigator specializing in family law. In 2020, she was named partner at DeTorres & DeGeorge Family Law. Carolyn represents clients in family court in all matters pertaining to divorce, custody...
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