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Erasing the Stigma of Divorce

Years ago getting divorced was scandalous. A divorced woman was an outcast. Slowly public opinion changed. Divorceés became risqué, then they were simply disapproved of. Today getting a divorce is not something you’re going to be criticized for. But that doesn’t mean you’ve forgiven yourself.

It’s common to go through a period of reassessment when you get a divorce, during which you might mistakenly turn the blame on yourself. One of the stages of divorce recovery is self-blame, where you analyze your entire relationship and marriage and pick out all the things you think you did wrong. Just because this is a common thing to do doesn’t mean it’s right!

If you are very hard on yourself you might (wrongly) decide to pin the following labels on yourself. Now is the time to stop your negative thinking!

  • Unfaithful. If you had a relationship outside your marriage it is just a sign that you were not happy in your marriage. You are not a bad person.
  • Just because your ex no longer loves you does not mean no one else will ever love you. It means you are now free to find the person who is right for you and will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
  • Everyone who gets a divorce argues. When a relationship is broken, tensions rise and your disagreements come to the forefront. When you are with the right person there will be no need for constant arguments.
  • Just because you took a stand for what was right for you this does not mean you are difficult. Instead it means you are strong enough and wise enough to know what you need.

At DeTorres & DeGeorge, we work with you to resolve your divorce as smoothly as possible. Call us today for help with your case in the Bridgewater and Warren Township areas of New Jersey.

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About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Rosanne S. DeTorres
Ms. DeTorres is the managing partner and co-founder of DeTorres & DeGeorge Family Law. She is also only one of 150 attorneys in the State of NJ that is certified by the NJ Supreme Court as a Matrimonial Law Attorney. Ms. DeTorres graduated...
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