Couple sitting on couch and talking with person in a white shirtUnfortunately, cheating is the cause of the breakdown of many marriages. Cheating often leads to trust issues.  It can be tremendously difficult to build trust after cheating. According to Psychology Today, 20 to 40% of marriages end in divorce after infidelity. This statistic suggests that marriages can heal and recover after an affair. Oftentimes people consider whether it is better to divorce after a situation of infidelity or continue to remain married. Taking the time to consider your options to decide whether or not you truly want to divorce your spouse is imperative. Frequently, divorce follows infidelity because people are unsure how to navigate staying together. After infidelity it is a good idea to find a therapist or marriage counselor who can focus on how to maintain a marriage after a betrayal. 

Does cheating lead to trust issues?

Once there is cheating in a marriage it can be difficult to regain trust. Cheating can lead to trust issues and dealing with trust issues after cheating can be difficult. Often cases of extramarital affairs and infidelity end in divorce because the parties involved feel that they cannot continue to remain married after betrayal. Coping with infidelity in divorce can be overwhelming. 

Is it possible to heal from the pain of infidelity?

People can heal from infidelity and sometimes that healing takes place even when people choose divorce. Dealing with marital infidelity creates overwhelming feelings of emotions ranging from anger to sadness, despair, feelings of insecurity, loss and devastation. It is easy for people to get caught up in the emotional rollercoaster that often comes along with a cheating spouse and trying to build trust after cheating. Some tips to heal from a cheating husband or wife include focusing on yourself, surrounding yourself with people that were not part of your relationship with your spouse, understanding that the feeling of fear is healthy, learning to forgive and creating a sense of feeling in your heart. It is critical to keep yourself medically fit so that you can continue taking care of your children, as they also navigate the impact of infidelity and perhaps divorce and establishing long-term goals can allow you to work toward certain milestones as you take the time that you need to heal.  Lifestyle By PS May 20, 2020.

If you want to try to work on your marriage, seek counseling not only with your spouse but for yourself individually. Keep certain aspects of your situation private. It generally is not a good idea to share negative things about your spouse to close family and friends if you intend to remain married to that person. The closest people in our lives become defensive on our behalf, which could ultimately interfere with the rehabilitation of your marriage and building trust with your spouse after cheating. Avoid blaming yourself or alternatively only the other person involved. It is necessary for your spouse to take accountability for their own actions.

If you are struggling with trust after cheating and are considering a divorce after infidelity you should first make the time to consult with a family law attorney. Contact our legal team at DeTorres & DeGeorge to answer all of your questions about divorce and infidelity. Whether you want to divorce or want to establish trust after cheating, we can provide the necessary guidance that you need in an effort to help you navigate this process. Contact us today.


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