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3 Reasons Why You Should Settle Your Divorce

When you decide to get a divorce, you’re doing it because you’re in conflict with your spouse. It’s common to feel malicious and to want revenge. Taking your spouse for every dime, punishing him or her by revealing all in court, or making the divorce as long and painful as possible might sound like the way to go. In reality, none of this is positive for you and instead you should be thinking about reaching a settlement. Here are some of the reasons why:

  • A bitter divorce just makes you more bitter. Revenge doesn’t do anything positive for you. It just allows you to stay angry for a longer period of time. If you want to be happy, start now. Spending all your time thinking of ways to stick it to your spouse, to punish him, or to annoy her isn’t going to increase your happiness, it only increases the negative energy in your life. Focus on what you can do for yourself.
  • A nasty divorce costs big bucks. Are you ready to spend your savings just to teach your spouse a lesson? A long drawn out divorce could leave you with almost nothing and you need financial resources to create your own future.
  • The uglier your divorce, the worse off your kids are. Not only will you do long-term damage to them but you might even damage your own relationship with them. And you’ll likely have to spend a lot of money on counseling.

Call DeTorres & DeGeorge for help with mediation and divorce settlements.

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About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Rosanne S. DeTorres
Ms. DeTorres is the managing partner and co-founder of DeTorres & DeGeorge Family Law. She is also only one of 150 attorneys in the State of NJ that is certified by the NJ Supreme Court as a Matrimonial Law Attorney. Ms. DeTorres graduated...
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