The Power of Divorce: Writing the Next Chapter of Your Financial Future


The Power of Divorce: Writing the Next Chapter of Your Financial Future

Person working at desk outside writing on a notebookWritten by guest writer, Lisa Manzolillo, client advisor at Simon Quick

Divorce is not easy.  It’s mentally, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s even more difficult when children are involved.  I know it all too well; I went through it too.  And while it may be scary at first, divorce creates an opportunity for YOU to write the next chapter of your life.  So I encourage you to feel empowered to take this as an opportunity to write the next chapter on YOUR terms, especially in regard to your financial future.

In a marriage, couples make most financial decisions together, but now you may find that it’s all on you. If finances do not come easy to you, or you simply need a push to get motivated, below are a few simple actions you can take to get your financial house in order.

Step 1:  Know Where You Are Now

Just as your navigation app asks your current location before it can provide directions to your destination, you need to know where you stand financially before you can start moving down your new path.

Create a Net Worth Statement:

Make a list of all your assets and liabilities. Under your assets, you should include values for your checking and savings accounts, investment and retirement accounts, and real estate assets such as your home or rental properties.

Liabilities would include debts such as your credit card balances, mortgages, and student loans.  Be sure to note the interest rates for each loan, so you can aim to pay off the higher interest debts first, and in the case of a mortgage, determine if it makes sense to refinance.

Ultimately, you arrive at your net worth by subtracting your liabilities from your assets.

Create a Spending Plan:

Detail your monthly bills as well as the ones you pay annually. List out how much you spend on your groceries, gas, and entertainment. Create a list of annual savings such as 401(k) or IRA contributions.  Once you have a list, try to group them by fixed and variable expenses. This will help you determine what expenses you have control to trim, if needed.

Once you know how much it costs to run your life, subtract that from your annual after-tax income.  You will either have a cash flow deficit or a surplus. If you have a deficit, you should identify what expenses can be reduced; if it’s a surplus, you have an opportunity to save even more.

Review Your Insurance Policies:

Make sure you have adequate healthcare, car, and homeowner’s insurance, plus an additional umbrella policy. Keep in mind that these policies may have originally been in your spouse’s name, so you may need to shop around for new ones. Also, if you have children, you’ll want to determine how much life insurance you need to ensure they’re taken care of in the event something happens to you.

Step 2:  Plan for the Future

The purpose of figuring out your current financial situation is so you can determine where you want to be five, 10, and 20 years from now.

Create an Investment Plan:

Once you have a handle on what assets you have, the next step is to review your investments (i.e. stocks and bonds) and create an investment strategy that is designed to meet your new short- and long-term financial goals.  It is important to know and understand what your risk tolerance and liquidity needs are; after all, your investments are the engine to your financial plan.

If investing is new to you or you simply don’t have the time to devote to managing your own investments, consider seeking a financial professional who is a fiduciary advisor and a Certified Financial Planner®.

Setting up a sound financial plan is a great way to build financial confidence after a divorce.

Lisa Manzolillo headshotLisa Manzolillo is a client advisor at Simon Quick. Lisa has 15 years of experience in wealth management, investing, and all areas of financial planning, including retirement planning, estate planning, tax planning, and risk management. She spends her days working with clients to identify and implement customized investment management and financial planning strategies designed to help them achieve their unique financial goals and objectives. Lisa graduated summa cum laude from the University of Rhode Island with a bachelor’s degree in accounting and earned an MBA with a finance concentration from Fordham University. She completed her Financial Planning Certificate Program at Pace University, earning her CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ (CFP®) designation, and also holds the Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) credential. To learn more about Lisa, connect with her on LinkedIn.

About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Erin D. DeGeorge
Erin D. DeGeorge joined DeTorres & DeGeorge, LLC as partner to the firm in June of 2010. Prior to joining DeTorres & DeGeorge, Erin was associated with the national firm of Fox Rothschild LLP and Cutler, Simeone, Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, LLC...
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