The 3 Hardest Things to Accept About Your Divorce

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The 3 Hardest Things to Accept About Your Divorce

As you get ready to go through the divorce process, there are several things you need to accept that you may not want to.

  1. Nobody Wins. Nobody ever walks away from a divorce with every single item on their wish list and a skip in their step. Divorce is about tough decisions and complex financial arrangements. With a good attorney and a reasonable outlook, it is likely you will come away with most of what you need to move forward with your life.
  2. Compromising May Be Best. If you are still feeling very angry and hurt, you may be focused on having a judge vindicate you or you may even feel you are out for some measure of revenge. The best way to come out of divorce with a plan that will work for you in the coming years and a reasonable relationship with your ex that is civil is through a cooperative process such as mediation or collaborative law. By customizing your settlement and your parenting plan, you will get the outcome that most directly fits your needs.
  3. The Past Doesn’t Matter. It is easy to get caught up in things your ex said or did, but for the most part none of this really matters. The only exceptions to this are when it comes to parenting and then only will huge egregious misbehavior really matter. Your ex may have been truly awful to you, but this does not matter to the judge. You are better to focus on the future and creating an outcome that will benefit you the most in the days to come than on what happened in the past.

For help with your divorce or custody case in the Middlesex or Somerset county areas of New Jersey, contact DeTorres & DeGeorge. Our compassionate attorneys are ready to talk with you today.

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About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Caitlin DeGuilo Toker
Caitlin DeGuilo Toker joined DeTorres and DeGeorge as an associate attorney in June 2014 and was named a partner of the firm in May 2019.Prior to joining the firm, Caitlin was associated with law firms specializing in the practice of family ...
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