Going through a divorce can make you feel completely out of control. Everything is changing and is suddenly up for grabs. Follow these tips to regain some control over your life and your emotions as you move through the process.
- Find a lawyer you can work well with. Effective legal counsel is absolutely crucial and it is essential that you find an attorney you feel comfortable with, trust, and can talk to. You need an attorney who can explain the law to you, tell you how your case is likely to be viewed by the judge, and offer straightforward advice about what to do. In turn you need to be able to articulate what you want, ask the questions that are on your mind, and be able to be completely honest about every aspect of your divorce.
- Stand up for what you need. There are so many negotiations, back and forths, arguments, and discussions in a divorce that sometimes you can be swayed by your ex or by a mediator or attorney who is trying to offer options. If you give in on things that really matter to you, you will always regret it. If it matters to you, you must speak up and hold firm.
- Find a new normal. Your old routine is gone, so instead of feeling lost with all the changes in your life, create a new routine that works for you and helps you feel that you are managing your own life. It’s fine to try new things and experiment, but if you can slowly start to put together a daily life that will work for you in the long-term you will feel settled faster.
- Divide emotions from money. Divorce, in the eyes of the law is primarily about money. Divorce, in real life terms, is mostly about emotions. While you have to deal with money and emotions, it is best to try to keep them separate whenever possible. Emotion clouds your judgment about money decisions. And no amount of money can ease a broken heart. Resolve to keep these two realms as separate as possible.
At DeTorres & DeGeorge your future is our focus. Call us today at 908-284-6005 to schedule an appointment to discuss your divorce in Bridgewater, New Jersey and the surrounding areas.