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Sharing a Home During Divorce

Many couples continue to live in the same house during and sometimes even after divorce. One of the most common reasons for this is money. If all of your money is tied up in the house, it may be impossible for either one of you to afford another residence. Sometimes, neither spouse feels he or she should have to leave the marital home (often because attorneys counsel that if you leave, you are not as likely to obtain possession of the home). Some people also refuse to move out because they want to be with the children, and no one can agree on a . Some couples choose to live together because it makes financial sense and they are able to cohabit as friends, with none of the strife involved in their marriage.

However you end up living in the same home with your ex, there are some things you can to do to make the situation easier and more livable for everyone.

  • Create zones. Designate personal zones, such as bedrooms and possibly bathrooms that will belong exclusively to each of you. Creating privacy reduces much of the stress of sharing a home.
  • Devise a schedule. Setting specific individual times of use for shared spaces such as the kitchen or living room can reduce your contact with each other and relieve conflict.
  • Set up parenting times. Even if you haven’t been able to agree to a formal parenting plan, creating a schedule that specifies when each of you is “on duty” will make parenting together easier and give each of you free time.
  • Consider moving in and out. Some couples are unable to formally and completely move out of the home, but find they need space. In this kind of situation, you can assign days when you each get to live in the home alone. The other spouse goes somewhere else on these days, such as a friend’s house or an apartment. This approach works when there are children and allows parents to move in and out of the home for their scheduled parenting time. The children get to live full-time in their own home, reducing the effect of the divorce on them.

At DeTorres & DeGeorge, your future is our focus. Call our office for help with your case in the Bridgewater and Warren Township areas of New Jersey.

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About DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law

DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

Caitlin DeGuilo Toker
Caitlin DeGuilo Toker joined DeTorres and DeGeorge as an associate attorney in June 2014 and was named a partner of the firm in May 2019.Prior to joining the firm, Caitlin was associated with law firms specializing in the practice of family ...
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