Explaining divorce to your kids is hard. It may not be something you have even completely come to grips with yourself and you have to find a way to phrase things the right way, answer hard questions, and work to help your child understand it. Although it is essential that you spend time talking with your child and responding to questions, one great way to help the process along is to buy or borrow some books about divorce. There are many wonderful books that explain the situation and help kids think about divorce and realize their situation is not unusual.
Picture books will help your preschool and elementary age children work through some of the issues in the divorce. Read the books with your child and talk about them after you read them. It is a good idea to read them several times to give your child time to think about the information. Some good picture books are:
It’s Not Your Fault KoKo Bear by Vicki Lansky
Dinosaurs Divorce by Marc Brown
Two Homes by Claire Masurel
When My Parents Forgot How to Be Friends by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos
Older children need books to read as well. The best plan is to give your child the book then talk about it after he or she has read it. If your child doesn’t want to talk about it, don’t push. Sometimes just giving him or her the book is enough. Some recommended books for preteens and teens include:
The Divorce Help Book for Teens by Cynthia McGregor
A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parents’ Divorce by Nancy Holyoke
What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce? by Kent Winchester
You can probably find many of these books at your local library. Your child’s school library may also have many of them.
DeTorres & DeGeorge is your family law attorney in Hunterdon, Warren, Middlesex or Somerset county . Schedule a time to come see us and talk about your concerns.