Co-Parent Harassment


Co-Parent Harassment

Woman holding open hand in front of herHarassment can be defined as any unwanted behavior, physical, verbal or even suggestive behavior that makes a reasonable person feel uncomfortable, upset, anxious in some way or humiliated. There are several types of harassment as defined by law. One specific area of harassment pertains to domestic violence. Harassment both during a divorce and following a divorce can take many forms, such as verbal abuse, physical harassment, financial pressure and social media abuse. 

Our skilled New Jersey divorce lawyers fight for your right to file and litigate your divorce issues without being harassed. Here we pursue all legal remedies including but not limited to filing restraining orders. New Jersey has a criminal definition of harassment and there is a separate harassment law for cyber harassment,  The Prevention of Domestic Violence Act of 1991 was enacted to protect spouses and other family members from abuse. This law applies to different types of domestic crimes including the harassment statute and cyber harassment.

Some of the keys to healthy co-parenting plans include security, consistency, effective problem-solving and emotional stability.

What is considered harassment by a co-parent? 

Harassment by a-co parent can look like repeated phone calls, text messages, or emails, verbal abuse, name-calling, threatening and condescending behavior. Co-parenting harassment is not limited to having a negative impact on the parent but sadly can impact the children who are usually in the middle. 

What not to do with co-parenting

Do not engage when your co-parent engages in harassing behavior. Although difficult certainly, do your best to limit interactions to issues concerning the children and making choices that are best for them. Sometimes, the co-parent thrives on the reaction of the other parent. Ignoring the harassment to the extent possible, could be helpful to alleviate the behavior.

What can I do if my child’s other parent is harassing me?

Co-Parenting can be extraordinarily difficult, even under the most amicable circumstance. It is important to listen to one another and use composure when interacting. Put plans in place to alleviate stress and aim for consistency with your children.

If you are being harassed by your co-parent make sure you reach out to someone who can help you navigate the circumstances. Communicating with your attorney about the circumstances and providing any documentation to support the situation can be helpful in bringing an end to the harassment. Seeking the assistance of mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors can be helpful in providing you the non-legal support that you and your children may be experiencing as a result of the circumstances. It is important to avoid engaging with your co-parent in a negative capacity and it is critical to set clear boundaries. Under the circumstances, utilizing an online tool, such as Our Family Wizard can provide you with a neutral platform to avoid furthering co-parent harassment. This allows for your attorneys and other professionals to monitor the communications and assist when necessary but also it allows the court to intervene.

Oftentimes people engage in co-parent harassment with a co-parent through harassing messages. If you are being subjected to harassment from your co-parent, save the messages that are being sent to you in the event that you need to provide proof to any professionals involved in your matter.

At DeTorres & DeGeorge Family Law,  New Jersey divorce lawyers assert your legal rights. We explain the practical circumstances of divorce. We will help you understand how you can prepare your own co-parenting divorce guide. If you are experiencing co-parent harassment, we can help you. Call us today at 908-691-2104 to schedule an appointment.


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