What Is Co-Parenting?

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What Is Co-Parenting?

Co-parenting is a buzzword you will hear a lot about if you are in the middle of a divorce or custody case. Some people misunderstand what co-parenting is all about.

Co-parenting is not:

  • Necessarily splitting your time 50/50 with your child. Co-parenting happens in any kind of parenting plan, on any kind of schedule.
  • Spending a lot of time with your ex. You don’t have to physically be together to co-parent.
  • A requirement that you spend time together as a family with your ex and your child. If this doesn’t work for you, don’t do it.
  • Giving in to your ex about everything. Co-parenting means making decisions together, which entails compromise.
  • Pretending there are no problems between you. You simply need to separate those from your parenting time
  • As hard as it sounds. In fact, the more you do it, the easier it gets.

What co-parenting does include is:

  • A realization that it is best for your child if you and your ex communicate about your child and try to coordinate your parenting in some way.
  • An effort to keep your child out of the conflict that is between you. Discuss things when your child is not in earshot.
  • Trying to show up to some events or activities together (or at the same time), so your child sees that you are still parenting together, if possible.
  • Including your ex in your child’s life, including news from school, achievements, and current interests and hobbies.
  • Finding a reasonable way to share holidays so your child has time with both of you.
  • Understanding that you are two different people who parent in two different ways and that that is ok.
  • Working together in your child’s best interest.

 

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DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law is a New Jersey based family law firm that has been helping New Jersey residents achieve the best possible results in their divorce for nearly 30 years. The DeTorres and DeGeorge Family Law team is always ready to fight for their clients’ rights – determined to help New Jersey families overcome legal challenges from start to finish. Our legal team, with over 65 years of combined experience, provides expert guidance on all family law and divorce-related matters, including custody and parenting time, alimony and child support, equitable distribution of assets, premarital agreements, post-divorce issues, executive compensation distribution, divorces for business owners, and divorce mediation. The firm has been recognized for its dedication and expertise in the industry by multiple local and national organizations, including Super Lawyers, Law Firm 500, and the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys. Rosanne DeTorres, Managing Partner, is one of 150 lawyers certified as a matrimonial law attorney.

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Erin D. DeGeorge joined DeTorres & DeGeorge, LLC as partner to the firm in June of 2010. Prior to joining DeTorres & DeGeorge, Erin was associated with the national firm of Fox Rothschild LLP and Cutler, Simeone, Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, LLC...
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