What Is Co-Parenting?

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What Is Co-Parenting?

Co-parenting is a buzzword you will hear a lot about if you are in the middle of a divorce or custody case. Some people misunderstand what co-parenting is all about.

Co-parenting is not:

  • Necessarily splitting your time 50/50 with your child. Co-parenting happens in any kind of parenting plan, on any kind of schedule.
  • Spending a lot of time with your ex. You don’t have to physically be together to co-parent.
  • A requirement that you spend time together as a family with your ex and your child. If this doesn’t work for you, don’t do it.
  • Giving in to your ex about everything. Co-parenting means making decisions together, which entails compromise.
  • Pretending there are no problems between you. You simply need to separate those from your parenting time
  • As hard as it sounds. In fact, the more you do it, the easier it gets.

What co-parenting does include is:

  • A realization that it is best for your child if you and your ex communicate about your child and try to coordinate your parenting in some way.
  • An effort to keep your child out of the conflict that is between you. Discuss things when your child is not in earshot.
  • Trying to show up to some events or activities together (or at the same time), so your child sees that you are still parenting together, if possible.
  • Including your ex in your child’s life, including news from school, achievements, and current interests and hobbies.
  • Finding a reasonable way to share holidays so your child has time with both of you.
  • Understanding that you are two different people who parent in two different ways and that that is ok.
  • Working together in your child’s best interest.

 

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Erin D. DeGeorge joined DeTorres & DeGeorge, LLC as partner to the firm in June of 2010. Prior to joining DeTorres & DeGeorge, Erin was associated with the national firm of Fox Rothschild LLP and Cutler, Simeone, Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, LLC...
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