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How to Decide if You Want a Divorce

Deciding to get a divorce is a difficult decision. It is often a long road with many twists and turns along the way. One day you may be certain you want a divorce, while the next day you may want to stay in your marriage. It is a difficult decision and one that should be made carefully. Follow these tips to help you decide if you want a divorce.

  • See a therapist. A marriage counselor, couples therapist, or individual therapist can help you work on fixing what’s wrong in your marriage and/or help you come to the conclusion that a divorce is the best solution, if that is true in your situation. If you don’t first try to fix your marriage, you might always wonder if it could have been saved.
  • Understand the possible outcomes. It’s hard to decide if you want a divorce if you don’t really understand what that will mean for you and your family. Set up a consultation with a divorce attorney so that you can understand how a divorce will impact you. Child custody, property division, alimony, and child support are all important components of a divorce that you need to understand. You should also find out how much a divorce will actually cost and how long it will take.
  • Marriage therapists routinely recommend that couples considering divorce find out what it feels like. They suggest you take a week and live as if you were divorced, sharing time with your children, living apart, and running your lives financially and practically as if you were divorced. This allows you to try it out and see what it really feels like.

DeTorres & DeGeorge handle divorce and family law in New Jersey and are ready to talk to you about your case.