It is extremely common to get through your divorce, walk out of the courthouse ready to begin your new life, and suddenly feel as though you’ve made bad choices. You might be sad your relationship is over or you may feel you agreed to a settlement that wasn’t in your best interest. You might wonder if you were able to tell your attorney everything he or she needed to know and whether enough evidence was presented to make your case. Many people have a huge feeling of letdown once the divorce is over and begin to second guess themselves.
The first thing to remember is that you did the best you could at the time. A divorce is stressful and you certainly weren’t at the top of your game. You made the best choices you could given the circumstances and you need to accept that and forgive yourself if you your choices might not have been optimum.
Secondly, you need to look to the future. Your divorce is part of your past. If you keep reliving the past you will never be able to create the positive and happy future you have been dreaming of. Make the most of what you have, take what you’ve been given in the divorce and walk forward with it.
There is no perfect divorce. There is no settlement or judgment that gives you everything you want. You could spend days worrying about what you could have, should have, might have said, done, asked for, suggested, demanded, but in the end, your divorce settlement or judgment was probably fair and based on the facts in your case. There was nothing you could have done to change it.
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